Some people honestly don't know what it feels like to win.
Most of the time I'm on the phone or face to face having conversations with people who NEED encouragement. Who NEED to hear you can do it, I believe in you, keep pushing, etc but some of the people I'm conversing with is having a HARD time even understanding or comprehending what I'm saying because they've NEVER seen it actually happen. I have. I've seen it happen for my students, my family, my co-workers and oftentimes MYSELF. The feeling is so freakin OVERWHELMING and AMAZING that EVERYTIME it happens I'm brought to tears. But the one thing I can HONESTLY say about the win is ITS NEVER EASY. You have to fight each round strategically, differently, and harder than you fought the last. But I realize the only reason I'm even able to continue to fight is because I have been a witness to what happens and how you feel when you finally reach your goal.! But what about the people who never make it to the finish line? What about the people who ALWAYS encounter the losses? Those people start to doubt if there is any real "winners." As I said before I'm here to encourage people so my response to them is YES! And you're actually one of them. See people make plans in their head and when their plans are not carried out exactly the way they saw them then that's considered a "loss." For example I set an 80lbs weight loss goal in one year. BY JUNE 1, 2015 I WANT TO HAVE LOST 80LBS. If I only lose 50lbs is that considered a loss? NO! You know why?????????? Because from June 2013 to May 2014 I gained 30lbs. So any weight loss whether it be 10lbs or 100lbs is a WIN for me since I didn't lose any weight at all last year. For all of my self proclaimed "losers" look at your life OVERALL. List all of the positive things you've done, list all of your strengths and on top of that list I want you to put in big, bold letters "MY WINS" because believe or not you DO have some and you can obtain many more but the first step is having that belief that it can happen. We all NEED somebody around to motivate, encourage and believe in us BUT its so rewarding when we motivate, encourage and believe in ourselves! GO AND GET YOUR WIN!!!