ITS UNFAIR FOR YOU TO JUDGE THE PEOPLE YOU ONCE WERE I'm a firm believer in change but I realize that with that belief comes along PATIENCE. One of the most valuable lessons I've learned to date is that sometimes change can take a lifetime. The problem for most people is not the change itself but the patience required for it to happen. If a person has been a certain type of way for 25yrs it might take them 25 more to change! The key is being patient enough to wait for that change. But you have others who have been a certain type of way for 25yrs and it might take them one year to change. Those ones are the MOST insensitive people in the world. I know because at times I AM ONE OF THEM. I would ALWAYS use the term "I couldn't understand." I couldn't understand how a family member of mine could deal with a married man because I wasn't doing it anymore. I couldn't understand how people could be working and not pay their rent since I was no longer in housing court. I couldn't understand how people could be fat and miserable because all of a sudden I'm such a gym rat.....THE NERVE AND AUDACITY OF ME!!!! Sitting around gossiping, laughing at, disrespecting and judging the same person that not too long ago I JUST WAS! I'm a very mindful person. I'm not ashamed to spit that REAL TALK but before I give anybody else on Gods green Earth some "real talk" I must be willing to give myself it first. Its EASY to be the outsider looking in. Consider yourself BLESSED if you have already made it through a situation that many others seem to be still struggling with. BUT at the same token lets not forget not too long ago you were sitting in that same seat. Lets not rub your victory in someone else's face instead reach back and try to bring them to victory as well. God sits HIGH and looks LOW, the moment I began to humble myself and help my people I got to truely see how ALL of the goods you do ALWAYS come back to you!!!!!